If you’ve been around since TLA was on the internet, chances are that you know the story of Amir & I.
For the TL,DR version: In 2009, after living in Milwaukee for a year, I moved back to Houston to work with KPMG. Amir was the Senior Associate on the client that I was working on. And I was meant to be working with him for 2 YEARS on all the same clients, haha. Well, I was all gaga-eyed over him right after we met. And apparently, it was the same feelings on his end. Within 2 weeks of meeting, we went out for our first dinner. A month later, we celebrated our commitment ceremony. And (almost) a year to the date of us getting our first dinner together, we were married. Yup.
Needless to say, while we loved each other something fierce, getting married to a guy who I just barely knew was…well, a bit of a struggle. We are both stubborn, hardheaded, and independent individuals. And all that did was cause us to bicker over every little thing. The love we shared was tested because we didn’t know how to deal with being together.
But little by little, we worked on it. Because, marriage, just like every other relationship in our lives, takes work.
We spent time learning how to listen more, holler less. How to give more grace instead of accusing and pointing fingers. And then just as we got our footing, we up and moved overseas. And while this might’ve derailed some people, we were committed to using our move as a way to further strengthen ourselves.
We spent more days having dates, sitting together and enjoying a TV show, and eating dinner together while we (okay, fine, I) talked our ears off. We asked each other how the other was doing more often. And in times where we were frustrated, instead of freaking out on one another, we talked things through. LIKE ADULTS.
As the years have gone by, our marriage has gotten stronger. We have become the people we knew we could be. We didn’t let the fear of hard work scare us away from the commitment we made to each other 6 years ago.
To be honest, I could not be more proud of us or our marriage. Because even when things were tough, we knew that we had a good thing worth working for.
In giving it our best, we received the best in return.