And I am not okay with it at all.
Here’s the thing. I’m a pretty huggy, lovey person…with people I know. I have a tendancy to hug when I greet my friends & family, I tend to squeeze their shoulders sometimes if I’m messing around with them, and I even sometimes touch people’s arms when I’m talking about something emphatically. But what I don’t do is invade someone’s personal space unless I know they are okay with it. Or unless I know you SO well that I am purposely trying to make you uncomfortable because we have that kind of established relationship.
Color me super shocked when the first time, around 16ish weeks or so, we went to a lunch party and a lady, who I have never, ever in my whole life, ever met, approaches me with “Ohhhh, I heard you were expecting” and then immediately shoves her hand onto my stomach. I was so shocked I didn’t even know how to react for a moment there. It was all in slow motion for me to come back to reality and realize that had actually happened and then that I should acknowledge her speaking to me and thank her for the congratulations.
And by the way, I wasn’t even showing at that time so unless I had previously told you myself that I was expecting, you just basically told everyone my news for me. Thanks a lot, thunder stealer.
I told Amir later how uncomfortable I had been in the situation because I didn’t even know the lady and I just felt like my personal space was invaded. I mean, come on, how would SHE have liked it if I had just walked up behind her, slapped her butt and said “Oh I heard you’ve been working out. Your butt looks good.” APPALLING, RIGHT?!
I also didn’t expect that as I got bigger that I would have this happening even more. But I have also become a completely stubborn brat now. I keep my arms around my stomach area when I meet people and I have gotten very good at a quick karate chop to keep people from touching me when I don’t know them & they try to beeline for my stomach.
Now on the other hand, I have had friends who’ve wanted to cop a feel, to which I think every single one of them has either asked or waited until I said it was okay before they even tried to touch me. And I’m okay with that. I know them. They know me. The permission was asked for and granted. It wasn’t just assumed that because I’m pregnant that everyone is suddenly allowed to touch me and do whatever they please as if I’m a cuddly goat at a petting zoo.
Maybe I’m rude. Maybe I’m being too direct and weird about this whole thing. But hey, it’s my belly and I’m not a genie, so I think I have the right to refuse someone who wants to rub me, don’t you think?
Has anyone ever uncomfortably invaded your personal space?! How did you handle it? Points if you went full ninja on them and then they never touched you again 😉